by Denice Moffat | Newsletter Archives
Find out what really pleases your mate and commit to do at least three of these things on their list of 10-15 items each day to build up that emotional bank account. Why? Because someday you will inadvertently make a withdrawal on that bank account and you don’t want to be overdrawn! I guide my clients to download my relationships exercise https://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Coaching%20Corner/relationships1.htm and make one copy for each person in the family unit. Post your completed lists on the refrigerator. It helps to keep you focused. It’s not what makes US happy we should be doing for our partners. It’s what makes THEM happy. And don’t be pushing buttons when you know what severely displeases your partner. That is not playing fair.
by Denice Moffat | Techniques
Anger and Forgiveness: An elderly Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. . . He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One wolf is evil—he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego. The other is good –he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.” They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The Elder simply replied, “The one you feed.”
